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Being a mom is not who you are, but what you are.

Moms, are you ever asked “what are your hobbies?”

Do you have an answer? Does it come to mind quickly and easily?

Hmmm? My hobbies … let me think …

Practicing patience. Negotiating with a toddler every minute of every day. Bribery. Dancing and singing (with my daughter). Daydreaming about getting more sleep!

As much as I love my daughter and love being a mommy, I wish the first things that came to my mind didn’t have to do with me being a mother.

I used to have hobbies that were centered around me and my interests. But since becoming a mom, the majority of hobbies seem to have something to do with my child. We like to garden together and have dance parties with each other. We enjoy getting out in nature and going for walks together. As much as I don’t love to admit this, we even like to go shopping. And while I love being able to do these things with my daughter, I do wish when asked about MY hobbies, what came to mind was more about me. That is not to sound selfish, but rather, as an indicator that I am taking care of myself first so what I have to give to my family is the best I have to give.

Recently, I have been working especially hard at showing myself more self love and self care in an effort to not lose myself and my identity entirely into momhood.

Being a mom is my greatest adventure and accomplishment. It challenges me and pushes me to be the best version of me daily. But being a mom is what I do, it’s not who I am.

In those little moments that I have to myself, I have been able to find simple things to bring me joy and peace. Believe me, I am a tired mother who is always on the go with my little one. So, when I first thought about finding my interests, it seemed so exhausting. And if I’m being honest, initially, all I could think about was the amount of sleep and rest I was going to lose in squeezing in activities in the brief moments of quiet.

Here are some simple suggestions for those of you who may be struggling to find your hobbies these days:

1. Writing in a journal. Taking the time to write down your thoughts, feelings and emotions has been shown to have many benefits. It’s also a great way to keep track of those little moments that can quickly be forgotten. Best of all, you can determine the amount of time you are giving to your writing. Some people simply keep a gratitude journal, which can be done is as little as a few moments. Or you can set aside a bigger chunk of time to write out in a more cathartic way.

2. Find your new favorite podcast or two … or three!!! Podcasts seem to be all the rage these days, and why wouldn’t they be?! You can find something to listen to that is exactly where your interests lie. You can listen in the car, while you’re cleaning, before bed, first thing in the morning, etc! Whatever and whenever you decide to listen to, try to make it part of your regular routine.

3. Perfect your photograph skills. Yes, smartphones have a lot of us feeling like (semi) professional photographers. But there is something to be said about taking real photographs from a quality camera. To document your child and actually get the photos printed can bring you to a whole new level of photography!

4. Read! Set a goal for yourself and how many books you’d like to read in a designated amount of time. Want to be held accountable to actually make time to read, join a book club. Or, start your own book club online.

5. Meditate. Another thing that is all the rage currently. And rightfully so, there are so many benefits in the power of meditation. The great thing about practicing meditation, is again, you can be in control of how much time you are devoting to the practice. It can be as simple and working on your breathe to reduce stress and anxiety all the way to a full meditation routine. Whatever works for you, make it a part of your daily routine. It helps build consistency and you will see the benefits more clearly.

6. Find your joyful movement and make time for it every day. There are so many benefits to exercise that are more than simply losing weight. When you exercise, do it for: reducing depression, enhancing muscle tone, strength and flexibility, lowering insulin levels, improving digestion so you get more out of the foods you eat, increasing motivation, and making you feel good. Joyful movement is something that is supposed to feel good where the focus is on pleasure instead of results. Joyful movement is an activity that can promote body awareness, challenges and a positive experience.

The amount and type of hobbies you can be participating in daily are limitless. Take time to connect with yourself and find what brings you calm and helps you learn and grow as an individual. Being a mom is the greatest gift of all, but it is important to not lose yourself entirely in motherhood. If you are feeling a little lost or don’t know where to start your hobby hunting process, we are here for you! Subscribe to our blog by filling out the simple form below for continued tips and real stories of momhood (failures and successes). Or reach out to us and we would be happy to talk more with you: . You are not alone mama - we are the hood of moms!

You can’t pour from an empty cup mamas. Make sure you are taking care of yourself first and foremost, so you can give your best to those who deserve it most!

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