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"Why is my head doing this?"



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“Why is my head doing this?.

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Why is it doing this now?”.

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“How will I ever be able to sleep?”.

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These were questions my daughter was asking as I was putting her to bed the other night.

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She was grabbing her head as she was asking these questions.

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As a mother, it was so disconcerting. Especially because I have asked myself that as an adult woman 100+ times. But I have many more decades of life to stress over than my 4 year old.

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These are stressful times indeed. But I don’t want my 4 year old to stress about anything. She should be going to school, having fun on play dates with friends, and being able to play at the playground for as long as her little heart desires.

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But she can’t. And wow does she miss all those things.

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This whole situation makes me so sad for all kids, of all ages. And that night, in my daughter’s bedroom, It broke my heart to see her so stressed, worried, and sad. I wanted to take those thoughts (whatever they were) away from her. I wanted her to lay her head on her pillow ever so gently and slowly and easily drift off to sleep.

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I knew it would be a challenging evening of sleep for her, especially with how it all was starting.

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I knew because I’d been there. I knew because I’m there now, like so many others of you.

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Our world is not what it was. And our world will (most likely) never be the same again.

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I don’t blame my daughter for feeling the way she was feeling. All I could do was grab her and hug her as tight as I possibly could. It wouldn’t take the thoughts or the feelings away, but I wanted her to feel that I understood her and that she knew she was safe. While also letting her know I would continue to be there for her as much as she needed me to be. It was all I felt like I could do for her at that moment.

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What do we do as parents now? How do we continue to make our little ones’ world safe?.

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These are uncharted territories. And we are all going through more than we ever have been before. That includes our children. Lucky for us, as adults, we can verbalize our thoughts and feelings. We can find ways to work through stressful moments and express our feelings. But our babies ... they can’t. They don’t have the vocabulary, articulation, or even the awareness of what it is they are truly feeling.

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So we need to look for their signs. Those little moments where we know they aren’t acting like themselves. And do what we can to make them feel safe and make them feel loved. It is our greatest power right now. Use your power, not only for your little ones, but for you as well. So when you lay your head on your pillow at night, you can avoid asking yourself those pesky little questions like “why is my head doing this?’, “why is it doing this now” and “how will I ever be able to sleep?”.

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You can simply know that you protected and loved your child(ren) with all your heart in this time that we are doing this all alone, together.

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Stay strong momHOOD - you’re doing great xoxo.

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